What I’m reading now…

I am reading The Firestarter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte. I am enjoying how she tells it like it is when trying to decide what direction to take:

“True strength is not necessarily about skill or adeptness. It’s about vitality. Holding this perspective changes everything, my friend. And it goes back to my root theory in life–that our actions are driven by our desire. It means that all that stuff that you may be good at but don’t really love to do, you get to dump…mostly. No more faking it to make it.”

She goes on to say that “we will never be great at the things we have to try to be good at. But we can be amazing at the things we are easily great at.”

I love this because it’s really saying to play to your strengths.

 

A simple way to finding happiness

In the spirit of November and the theme of Gratitude, I invite you to start a Gratitude Journal. Use this in any number of ways:

  • At the end of the day, list those things which you are grateful for
  • Start your day counting (and writing down) your blessings
  • Next time you are feeling angry or resentful, start writing down all the things to be grateful for right now.

Monitor your mood and outlook on life. I’m betting this simple journal will lead you to finding happiness, joy and peace.

Enjoy that doughnut

I was reading about doughnuts recently and came across this quote:

“When you talk about doughnuts, you’re talking about sugar and fat, which is something you need like air,” he said when I visited. “You can only hold your breath for so long. Eventually you’ve got to inhale. It’s the same with doughnuts.”

I tell my clients that it’s ok to have a treat every once in a while. But make sure you treat your treat like a special occasion. After all, if you did it every day, it wouldn’t be a treat, would it?

So go ahead and eat that doughnut. But first make sure if it is what you REALLY want. (Perhaps you’d rather have mashed potatoes, a candy bar, or ice cream?). Really sit and connect with yourself.

If the doughnut IS what you want. Then get it. But just get one. One can be a loving thing…more than one, not so much. Don’t eat it in the car, standing up, while reading or watching tv. And don’t eat it out of the bag.

Place it lovingly on your favorite plate. Pour yourself a nice glass of cold milk, a cup of coffee, or a chilled glass of water. Then sit down and look at your doughnut. Decide you will enjoy this doughnut. That you will taste and savor every bite. Imagine yourself chewing slowly and tasting every single crumb.

Perhaps you decide to eat just half or one quarter of the doughnut. Maybe all your truly want is that first bite. And then you put it away for another time.

Or maybe that one bite is enough to satisfy your craving and you toss the rest.

Try mindful eating and see what happens.

And sign up for my small-group coaching program. Let this group support you on your weight loss journey.

Use your bed to create inner peace

I just completed a many-months stretch of not making my bed. I mean, why bother? If I’m not expecting company why make it? Well, it turns out making your bed DOES make a difference. There’s a saying, The State of Your Bed is the State of Your Head.

So I tried it. And I have to say there is something to this. Having a made bed, clean sink, neat environment, etc, calms my brain and is a step closer to inner peace. All that undone stuff causes a lot of noise in my head. I know that my house can’t always be perfectly clean, but I can take the few minutes each day to make my bed.

Try it and see what a difference it makes for you.

Lose weight with a life coach

weight loss with a coach

All through childhood and into adulthood I had issues with my weight. In fact, when I was 10 I couldn’t see my feet because of my belly! I have now won the weight loss battle- and I have kept the weight off for over ten years.

I have a coaching package to help support you on your own weight loss journey. I want to be on your success team as you create the new you. I’ll support you as together we identify any challenges and obstacles on your road. We can set reasonable – and inspiring- goals that will inspire you as you lose weight. We’ll devise a solutions-based strategy to make your success as easy as can be.

Learn more about my healthy lifestyle and weight loss coaching program here. I would be honored to walk with you as you begin your new life!

Life coaching on the radio

life coach radio show

Are you curious about life coaching? I have a weekly radio show where I coach callers on the air. Listen every Sunday at 10am Eastern Time on Crescent Hill Radio, 1650 am in Louisville Kentucky. You can stream it online live or listen anytime to my archived shows.

Call 502.261.9289 or email me if you’d like to be a caller on the show!

How to solve problems and create a better life

hire a life coach and solve your problems

I know how to get those flashes of brilliance, the ‘aha’ moments, and bursts of creative flair. And I know how to bring forth that powerful force of inspiration.

How long has it been since you’ve felt that magical time when solutions to your problems pop into your head? When the answers to a particular dilemma seem to appear out of nowhere? When the right words to respond to a difficult email are suddenly flowing onto the page?

I’ve been curious and have studied where creative inspiration comes from for the past 14 years. Here’s what I know: creativity is vital to problem solving, becoming aware of new perspectives, and in finding new ideas. There is an inner genius inside each of us- yet for many of us this genius is sadly under-used.

Our genius needs space. We cannot tap our inner wisdom if we are always rushing from one thing to the next. And…interestingly, we cannot force our brilliance. We cannot sit like Rodin’s sculpture of the thinker (above) and decide, “Now I am going to have an amazing idea!” Our mind needs space…time to just be. This is why meditation is so powerful. But you don’t need to do a structured practice. Try this:

When you arrive at work tomorrow, sit for five minutes with your eyes closed and let your mind wander over the various things you need to do during the day. Don’t have a set agenda, don’t try to solve or plan anything. Just let your mind wander and allow it to go wherever it wants. Think of your mind as a curious child exploring what is on your agenda. You will find this to be the best five minutes you have spent all day. Do it and see for yourself.

The other thing is, your mind needs time to daydream, to explore options, to create solutions. This is why we so often find answers to our problems while taking a shower! Recreate that time where your mind is free to wander at various points throughout the day: unplug your phone and go for a walk. Eat without reading the paper or watching tv. Unplug from your devices and just be.

Create a better life for yourself by giving yourself space! Spend more time with your inner genius…and start living your brightest life.

Life: attendance really does count!

Remember in school how some classes gave you points just for attendance? Even if there were no daily credit given, most classes would be very hard to fail if we just went to every one of them. Well, life is like that, too. If you just show up it would be almost impossible to fail.

Where are you not showing up in your life? Are you avoiding what you know you should be doing? Are you watching too much tv? Sleeping too much? Spending too much time on the computer? Procrastinating instead of doing? Drinking/eating/gambling/shopping [fill in the blank] too much? Decide right now that you are going to be an A student in your life! Show up, be engaged, energized and PRESENT in your life!

If you need help getting started, I highly recommend my Six Week Go Getter Program. It will help you take control of your life and get more done.

Banish negativity from your life

Check out October’s Lizify Newsletter for some great tips on getting rid of negativity. Being negative truly can hold you back…and the tips in this month’s newsletter are in an easy step-by-step format. You’ll fly higher without all that gunk weighing you down!! Banish negativity once and for all and start living the life you’ve always wanted!

Find happiness by watering your own lawn

Do you find yourself feeling resentful when a friend shares good news? Instead of feeling joy when you hear that someone got promoted or bought a new couch, do you feel like they get all the good stuff? Your resentment is not about them. It’s about you. Those pangs of jealously are actually messages that it is time to work on yourself.

Decide right now to make your own good news. Take action and make the changes you know you need to make to get the life you want. To get your mind in a better place start by practicing gratitude. Every time you feel yourself getting jealous, name 12 things you are thankful for right now. Schedule a quiet time to sit with a notebook and look at your life goals. What is missing in your life? Where do you want to be 5 years from now? One year from now? What steps can you start making today to get the life you really want? Once you know you are living your best life and working towards your goals of a full and vibrant life, you will find happiness in your own place…and happy for others. If any of these steps feel overwhelming, sign up for a free coaching session. Visit my website to learn more.